Cherish
and Admire
Relationships are rarely easy but there
are aspects that can be simple if we take them in small segments. Take for example the effort to meet your
spouse or significant other’s needs. Let’s
pare that down to a single need that is present in most men and a different
single need that is present in most women.
Men,
most women have a deep desire to be cherished and known. They usually experience that by a man taking
the time to listen to them without responding like the man has to fix any feeling
or issue the woman mentions. Most men
act as fixers and therefore do not listen as carefully as they might at the
beginning of a dating relationship. Men,
she does not need your answers (unless asked for) what she needs is your
willingness to really hear her out and often in the hearing she is able to deal
with any need that she wants changed
Ladies,
most men have a deep though rarely expressed need to feel admired and
appreciated. He will not be likely to
tell you of this need nor be able to give much thanks for your meeting it. However, you can have a great positive impact
on your man if you will make extra effort to verbally express to him or about
him to others in his presence how much you appreciate or admire him. That will go a long way in keeping his
interest strongly in you.
Please
do not wait for the other to “deserve” your listening or appreciation. Simply give those as your gift to your
partner and the long term health of your relationship.
